So imagine grabbing a latte with an old acquaintance. Almost always, this is how the conversation starts out:
What have you been up to?
How is your relationship going?
These common 3 “small-talk” ice breakers are everything I dread about going out to see a friend I haven’t connected with in a few months.
The next question I absolutely resent people for even bringing up is, “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”
The younger me (okay so last year) would have mouthed off something to my interrogator and stood up on a soap box preaching the futility behind this inquiry. Partially for the below reasons:
- There’s science behind those who talk too much about their goals and never achieving it. So it’s better to keep tightlipped until the deed has been done. What’s the awesome term for this? Oh yes, hubris.
- Most people use this to evaluate what my priorities are. If I’m on a date for example, and I say I’d like to become director in the next 5 years, the other person would assume I’m too career focused. If I say, marriage, they probably would have bolted for their car on our first date.
- A real goal feels too intimate to share with anyone. I rather not have my secret hopes and dreams passed on, then having them tell their cohorts, thus creating our entire social circle focusing on my foreseeable future at tea time.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
So here’s my 5 year plan. The goals I hope to achieve that aren’t wasted on defining who I am by who I will be bound to, or what desk I’ll be chained to, or which professional title to brand me for the new few years. My goals in life transcend beyond the mundane.
Year 1: Fill my brain with beautiful stories – as many books as I can possibly read
Year 2: Master flexibility outside the physical entity of my being
Year 3: Understand the value of success is more than the digits in my bank account
Year 4: Observe and indulge in other cultures. Distance away from the routine provides fresh perspective
Year 5: Persevere through all things that pass through my way and just continue spreading positivity
This is what I want to discover in the next 5 years. Career or love life… they’re just small percentages of our daily life and yet we attribute way too much in both. There’s more to our existence than how we make our fun coupons and who we choose to spend it with.