This is how I learned acceptance

Last year, I learned acceptance instead of resistance.
It leaves me both liberated and sad to see this change in my thought process. Though, it is extremely freeing to not care and less exhaustive to.
But where’s my voice?

I thought to myself during this realization, “is acceptance just giving up?”

Where did the old me go? The one that used to kick and scream for the things I believe to be fair, the things I wanted to change, the ideas I needed to execute.
Did my passion evaporate?

Or do just lose our edge when we age? Accept that things are just the way it is took a lot of years out of me. If there was a physical manifestation in how I gained this understanding, it would be equivalent to getting white hair. But it’s this transformative phase has helped me get through the bullshit. In the global scale, I needed to practice this the most during the current crisis that will define my generation: the COVID-19 Pandemic.

Instead of living in fear, acting in panic, and hiding myself, I’ve learned this is what it is and I need to do my part in it. However large of a problem this eventually will become for me, I need to accept that it is here and follow the guidelines provided by healthcare officials. So I sigh and move directly into acceptance, research the best way to flattening the curve, find the right ways to go outdoors for groceries or a walk to see sunlight without exposing myself to it.

Sure, we can go through the phases of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression before we finally get to acceptance. Or we can just choose the expressway there and stop getting angry. Our frustrations taken out at other people at the grocery store, glares darted at strangers on the street, or even yelling and blaming at people on the frontlines for running out of stock on things. The frustration is natural, we’re all afraid of the unknown especially since the ‘cure’ doesn’t come in a form of medication but our own antibodies to fight this off. However, we don’t need to be angry at our neighbors and other strangers.

Let’s please just stop that. We need to show more kindness to everyone now when we need it the most. The ones who are directly and personally affected and the ones living in fear of this unknown. Accept it, treat it and don’t live in the anger. Spreading kindness and hope is what we need.

I’ve accepted this problem we have, there is not denial and resistance anymore. The toll keeps rising and anger is elevating everywhere but what I’m not seeing enough is acceptance and learning to be good neighbors and friends to help each other through it.

With COVID-19, A New Wave of Racism

Date: July 22, 2010

Mr. Martinez, University of California Riverside Professor in Sociology 

He had said during one our very last lecture in class, “We are not all different races; we all belong to the human race.” The quote really touched me. I had never thought of it like that. With the lack of the right education from our childhood, we’re not taught that we’re all the same. We learn in history about World Wars and Civil Wars separating peoples and confining them to their races, but nothing teaches us about the takeaway. What was it all for? Every little fire started from xenophobia. Why haven’t we been properly educated to understand that despite the wars that have created racism, we are all part of the human race and if you truly trace back our roots, we’re just all from the same place

Date: March 26, 2020

A decade later, a world pandemic spreads from Wuhan, China where the Coronavirus outbreak started and it seems a new wave of  racism towards Asians have emerged. With research concluding that this was a result of natural evolution, it seems the rest of the world is looking to blame the Chinese, further exacerbated by Trump calling it the ‘Chinese Virus.’ Unfortunately, it resulted in not just scapegoating the Chinese, but other Asians alike: Japanese, Vietnamese, Koreans etc…

As the coronavirus upends American life, Chinese-Americans face a double threat. Not only are they grappling like everyone else with how to avoid the virus itself, they are also contending with growing racism in the form of verbal and physical attacks. Other Asian-Americans — with families from Korea, Vietnam, the Philippines, Myanmar and other places — are facing threats, too, lumped together with Chinese-Americans by a bigotry that does not know the difference.

In interviews over the past week, nearly two dozen Asian-Americans across the country said they were afraid — to go grocery shopping, to travel alone on subways or buses, to let their children go outside. Many described being yelled at in public — a sudden spasm of hate that is reminiscent of the kind faced by American Muslims, Arabs and South Asians in the United States after the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001.

But unlike in 2001, when President George W. Bush urged tolerance of American Muslims, this time President Trump is using language that Asian-Americans say is inciting racist attacks.

-NY Times

I woke up to this article and immediately started messaging my family, reminding them to not travel alone anywhere during this time. Reminding friends to tell their beloved to brace themselves for this new hate wave. I’ve noticed when I go out once every few days to pick up groceries, there’s a larger gap between myself and others waiting in line than other queues without anyone of Asian descent. I’m actually thankful nothing worse has happened to me or anyone else i know.

I’m realizing how very real and terrifying this disease has taken form from something that gives us daily hypochondria to fear that we can’t even walk outside alone or in the dark. It’s scared everyone else away from Asians even in the time when we all need to move away from racism and fight this disease for all human kind.

It seems we’ve forgotten:

that all men are created equal.

I’m deeply terrified for the younger kids who have to go back to school and face bullying. I’m painfully afraid of my parents who are much older now to defend themselves when they decide to take a stroll outside.
I’m disappointed that despite all the fake news we’re aware exists in the interwebs, there’s a stain and fingers pointed because it’s easier to have someone to blame than accept something else. Something the media hasn’t been broadcasting. Something media should educate people on but don’t.

The novel SARS-CoV-2 coronavirus that emerged in the city of Wuhan, China, last year and has since caused a large scale COVID-19 epidemic and spread to more than 70 other countries is the product of natural evolution, according to findings published today in the journal Nature Medicine.

-Science Daily