Back in my first couple years post college, I would literally not have anything to do at work and constantly end up falling back to Elite Daily. Now? Given my busy 11 hour work schedule, I get ED newsletter subscriptions curated to select the top articles for that week.
This week, in particular, a post really carved in my stomach and pulled out my gut.
Love Bombing– the new love trend. So first there was ghosting, then breadcrumbing (seriously WTF?) and now there’s LOVE BOMBING. So what the living hell is this?
Taken from Elite Daily: Love bombing is a form of romantic manipulation in which your partner showers you with love from the get-go, only to have things go south fast, according to the New York Post.
Psychiatrist Dale Archer explained in a Psychology Today post that this happens when someone tries to win your affection by showering you with “love, attention, presents and promises about the future.”
Why the sudden urge to punch myself in the throat?
Well, I never knew there was a term for the same cycle I fall into with well, almost every person I think I’m falling for.
They always over-promise, under deliver.
They always shower with so much attention you’re about to drown in their TLC, like it’s waterfall. (yes I went there)
Based on the extended article from Psychology Today, it seems the love bomber is an insecure manipulator that just wants to make themselves seem like a great catch.
First, wow. What a reality check for me.
Second, dear god. This is the REAL fuck boy!! Fuckboys get so much hate for barely texting back, flaking, cute man buns, grungy beards, and massive flirting but at least they don’t swear by a future with you 3 minutes after meeting you and tell you you’re the one.
Lesson learned. Stay the F away from Love Bombers and take things slower…
Shit, can’t tell which one is easier to work on between the two.